Posted by: Tracy Barsamian Ventola | June 29, 2015

“I Could Never Homeschool…”

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So, I have been thinking about writing a post about how people often tell me, “I could never homeschool…I could never spent that much time with my kids” and “I could never homeschool…my kids would never listen to me”.  And then this beautifully written post – saying everything that I wanted to say – arrived in my inbox.  A pretty little gift tied in a bow.  (Link to the gift-wrapped article at the end of this post.)

I was really scared when I withdrew my big girl from school two years ago.  I had no more tricks up my sleeve…no contingency plan if homeschooling turned out to be a disaster.  My biggest concern about homeschooling was that, at the very least, school was a break for me!  What if my big girls’ outrageous behaviors – the endless tantrums – continued and then (having withdrawn my child from school), I’d have no breaks?!  But my intuition was screaming that we had to try homeschooling.  And honestly and truly, removing the stress of school stopped the outrageous behaviors.  My girl calmed down.  She settled into herself.  And it became really easy to spend time with her.  And the more time we spent together, the more we enjoyed one another’s company!

Here’s the sad truth:  school hurts families.  As John Taylor Gatto, a former NYC school teacher explains (in his letter of resignation published in the Wall Street Journal on July 25, 1991), “government schooling is the most radical adventure in history.  It kills the family by monopolizing the best times of childhood and by teaching disrespect for home and parents.”  Kids are stressed out by school and the parents deal with the fallout at home.  My child hit and kicked and screamed endlessly each day afterschool.  That puts a damper on a parent-child relationship (to say the least!).  So the truth about school gets all mixed up.  Parents start to see school as an opportunity to get some time away from their children.  BUT they only need time away from their children because the kids are wrecks from having gone to school!!  Remove school = remove the stress = happy child.  And spending time with happy child is a joy!  After you take your child out of school, it will take a little while for her to recalibrate.  The transformation won’t happen overnight.  But it will happen.  And it will be the best gift ever – for your child, for yourself, for your family.

I can honestly say that homeschooling has been the very best thing – for us individually and as a family.  Of course the behavioral changes were life changing.  But once we’d healed from school and could embrace homeschooling, our lives changed even more dramatically.  The freedom of homeschooling – the time and space that this lifestyle afford us – feeds our souls and our family’s spirit.  It was only two years ago that we withdrew our girl from school…but it feels like a lifetime ago.  I have never looked back.  I have never once wished that my children were still in school.  I am grateful every. single. day. that we took that leap of faith and tried homeschooling.

And so…here is that little gem of a post “I could never homeschool…I need a break from my kids” from the Happiness is Here blog.

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